It sounds like being Christian is important to you. You noted that you don’t want to be in a same-sex relationship because you are Christian. Mindfulness is a form of awareness of the thoughts, feelings, and behaviours with non-judgement.
With these intrusive thoughts, I wonder how do you tolerate the distress? What are some self-soothing activities you engage in? Mindfulness practices can be used to tolerate distress. Just because you may have certain thoughts, that does not necessarily mean that you would act out those thoughts. Thoughts and actions are separate things. It is also important to note that thoughts are just thoughts, it does not directly translate to action. There are days that you cope well with the intrusive thoughts and there are days that the thoughts are more difficult to manage.
These intrusive thoughts also cause distress. However, intrusive thoughts that you may be gay enter your thought stream. From your paragraph, I understand that you identify as a female with a desire to have a boyfriend. I’m sorry to hear you are struggling.įirst you mentioned about having HOCD-which are undesirable, intrusive thoughts that you might want to be in a relationship with a person of the same sex, despite being straight. Thanks for sharing your questions and concerns.
